What do you think needs to happen for you to feel like you're "together"?

Some people think that a true feeling of "togetherness" can only be created when going out together to a movie, a trip, a meal, an exhibition, or some other outing. Organizing this kind of "togetherness" requires planning and can turn into a full-scale production: choosing the right day and time for both, picking the right place, the movie or route that both partners will enjoy, babysitters, parking, and more. Since not all of us have a personal producer, this "togetherness" doesn't always come to fruition. This can frustrate both partners and create a sense of having missed out on their unique "togetherness" again. There are complaints and questions like: "Ugh, we weren't together again," "When will we spend time together again?" and so on. One may have to wait a week or two until the next "project" takes place.

I suggest experiencing the "together" feeling even without large efforts and production. There are different ways to experience this feeling. Every daily task can serve as a foundation for shared experience: preparing a salad together, organizing a bookshelf, renovations, home decoration, organizing closets, designing a website, searching for necessary information on the internet, shopping, or cleaning the house together. We all have daily tasks that we can incorporate our partners into. The feeling of "togetherness" doesn't need to depend on specific activities but on the internal feelings and experiences of the partners. Sometimes, couples stay in an expensive and luxurious hotel and experience feelings of loneliness and disconnection between them. On the other hand, it also happens that couples do routine, hard work together and experience feelings of togetherness and cooperation. These feelings depend on the atmosphere between them. Conversation, a smile, and offering help are free and accessible resources at all times, and they can strengthen the feeling of "togetherness."

Conversation, a smile, and offering help.
Mika